Severing Family Ties to Toxic People

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10 Links Condoning Severing Family Ties to Toxic People:

ABC News

"The facts are that family members are just people and not always healthy people, and if these people weren't family, we would never choose them to be a part of our lives due to their poor treatment of us," Campbell said.”

The Art of Charm

“There’s an old myth that frogs will pull down other frogs trying to escape a pot of boiling water. That’s likely the stuff of folklore, but the dynamic is real: In everyone’s life, there will always be people who will resist, threaten and sabotage the possibility of self-improvement. These are some of the signs of a toxic person.”

The Pragmatic Parent

“A family member will take advantage of the fact that you are family – a bond that is supposed to be enduring, loving and respectful – to manipulate and hurt you because they know you will find it very hard to remove yourself because you are family.”

Her Campus

“You should never compromise your mental, emotional or physical health for the sake of tolerating a toxic family member.”


“It takes a lot of emotional labor to engage with those who hurt you. My choice to cut off my tía after our confrontation was a choice made to protect myself and my mental health. Setting these boundaries is difficult.”

Tonic Vice

“Even after young adults physically leave their childhood homes, the psychological scars of abuse linger. In fact, research shows that child maltreatment can alter brain development, fracture one’s ability to form trusting relationships, and cause post-traumatic stress disorder, the same psychological condition that affects war veterans.”


“You don't have to get anyone else’s approval to set the boundaries you need to be healthy.”


“No Family Is Better Than Family That Hurts”

Ilane Lanzen

“Do you think ‘toxic’ is too harsh of a word for negative family members? The definition of toxic is that something is harmful to your health or lethal if consumed in sufficient quantities. When you understand how negative family members affect your health, this word makes total sense.”

We Have Kids

“Cutting people out of your life doesn't mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.”